There was a time when online dating wasn’t the thriving industry it is now. People used to do it in secret, then lie about how they met if the date led to a relationship.
These days, it’s a very different story. People are open about using apps and sites, and often go back to online dating to look for other options if their dates don’t work out. Since most friends stay in touch via technology (rather than face-to-face) it stands to reason that lots of relationships would start that way too.
Dating websites are everywhere nowadays, but how can you be sure you’re getting it right? If the whole world and his dog is signed up, how do you know you’re looking in the right place?
How to Get Online Dating RIGHT (And Meet Mr Right)
The first thing you need to do is think long and hard about the sort of person you want to meet. What do you want from this introduction? There’s no point swooning over someone who wants a casual fling, when you’re looking for Mr marriage-and-babies! Going for a site like We Love Dates, gives you sections to choose from so that you have a better chance of finding a partner.
When you’re looking for niche dating sites, you need to make sure you’re in the right area for what you want. There won’t be many twenty-somethings on senior dating sites, and there won’t be many seniors on a site for the under 40s.
Make it clear what you’re after
Spell out what you want. The internet is the perfect place to express exactly what you’re looking for, while completely protecting you from embarrassing yourself when your potential partner declines and backs off.
There really is someone out there for everyone, make sure you’re up front about what you want from the off – it’ll save some broken hearts and awkward silences down the line.
Take what you’re told at face value
If someone you’re chatting to makes it clear they don’t want a relationship, then you should trust that they don’t. There’s no point in agonising over the nuances in his messages and getting your friends to read them out with different intonation. If he says he wants a fling, he probably wants a fling – he’s not playing hard to get.
Be honest with your date
If you’re not feeling, say so! What waste yours or anyone else’s time? Call it a day and treat it as a learning experience, at least you know what you don’t want, right?
Online dating isn’t an exact science (it’s not an art either, who knows what it is?) so don’t take dating – or yourself too seriously! Dating is supposed to be fun, so you’d better make sure you have some!
Don’t get disheartened if they go nowhere, if you’ve had a fun night at the end of it, then you’ve done what you set out to. Don’t dwell on it. My friends have had some of the best dates of their lives with men they never got into a relationship with. If nothing happens past that first date, at least you’ve had a good time. There’s plenty more men in the search results!